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If You Still Love Your Ex You Should Not Remain Friends


Ice cream makes me sick.

Ever since I was a kid, I ate ice cream nearly every day. As I grew older, it became obvious it no longer agreed with me.  Last night, I had some after dinner. I had a terrible stomachache afterwards.

You may ask why I ate it, even when I knew it would make me sick.

The answer is simple: I love it.

This is the very reason why we befriend or attempt to befriend an ex when we know we should not.

I'm specifically speaking of the exes that broke our heart. And all too often, they are the only exes that we actually want to be friends with.

"Why would you even want to be friends with those people?"

Please refer to the ice cream statement above.

Love is most often the culprit for the reason we try so desperately to remain in an ex's life, yet, it is exactly the same reason we should not. Sometimes the reason is coupled with the innabiltiy to accept the failure of the relationship.

"I hope we can still be FRIENDS..."

Sounds awesome, don't it?

I mean, it isn't like you wanted a real relationship anymore. This way all the time invested wasn't for naught, right?

Ergo Friendship has to be the next best thing to a relationship with someone. You still get to see, talk to, and hear from your ex... just devoid of the closeness, romance, intimacy or sex.

But that's fine, right? As long as they remain in your life, it's cool. It's not like you really needed the above listed things, did you?

Yep. Sure you didn't.

Ok, enough with the sarcastic overtones.

Nothing screams 'consolation prize' more than being offered a piping hot pile of pseudo-friendship as  your ex breaks it off with you.

Friendship is a demotion. In fact, it's worse than a demotion. It's like getting asked to do the same job for half the pay, and with no chance of that ever changing.

Think about it. If your boss offered you a job like that, would you really accept it? or would you tell him to shove it up his ass and look for something else... something more along the lines of... I dunno... deserving?

Want a glimpse of what you have to look forward to by staying "friends" with your ex after they dump you or you've convinced yourself that you are mutually parting?

The Benefits of Staying Friends With Your Ex

* Anxiety, and the ever-present sinking feelings of inadequacy

* Constant worry that they'll find someone else before you can get them back

* The awkwardness of never knowing when it's 'okay' to contact them

* Watching your ex happily live their new life without you in it

Now let's take a look at what they get from such an arrangement:

Benefits They Get By Staying Friends With You

* The companionship of still having you 'around' when they want you

* The convenience of being able to call upon you when they are bored

* The security of knowing that you're always within easy reach and they can get you back anytime

* The ability to shut you out from certain aspects of their private life

A little weighted in their favor, no? By staying friends, your ex gets all the advantages of your past relationship without any of the deemed drawbacks of being committed to you.

They get friendship, you get heartache. They get companionship, you get a front-row seat to watching them move on with their life... a life that in time will include someone other than you.

Once you become your ex's friend, they see you in a whole new light. You're less of a romantic interest and more of a buddy they call for advice, or a shoulder to lean on.

Very rapidly you morph from potential partner to ex-lover. Any sex appeal that you had left becomes a thing of the past. Being friends will never get you ANY closer to reconciliation.

Sticking close and remaining a part of your ex's life will only lead to them being desensitized to your presence. You'll become a casual, comfortable, non-exciting entity in their life.

And there you have it. It's pretty ugly. Actually, it's worse than ugly... because it's a situation you're not likely to ever break out of if you find yourself mired in it.

So man up.. Head over to Sports Clips and ask for an MVP. Or just simply have some self-respect.


Martin Pistorious awakens after 12 year coma [PHOTOS\VIDEO]

By Maria Gomez

Martin Pistorious awakens after 12 year coma [PHOTOS\VIDEO], In the late 1980s, 12 year old Martin Pistorious was initially hospitalized with what doctors diagnosed as Cryptococci Meningitis. His condition quickly got worse, ultimately leaving him unable to speak or move.

According to NPR, doctors advised his parents, Rodney and Joan Pistorius, to take him home and keep him comfortable until he passed away.

Martin Pistorius\NPR
But he kept living.

In a first-person account for Britain's Daily Mail, Pistorius described the period after he slipped into a coma: "I was completely unresponsive. I was in a virtual coma but the doctors couldn't diagnose what had caused it. I was treated for tuberculosis and cryptococcal meningitis, but no conclusive diagnosis was made.

Medication after medication was tried – to no effect. I'd travelled beyond what medicine understood. I was lost in the land where dragons lie and no one could rescue me."

When he would finally awaken in the early 1990s, about the age of 14 or 15, Pistorius would emerge in a bleak state of mind.

"I had a sense that something was wrong," he told The Wright Stuff, a British TV program.

"I suppose you can almost describe it like when you are trying to wake up from a dream, but can't."
At some point, between the ages of 16 and 19, Pistorius would fully regain his consciousness only to be confronted by the jarring reality of his situation, according to NPR.

When he was 25, Martin’s aromatherapist, detected his slight smiles, his efforts to indicate he was aware by nodding and gazing. At her request, he went for testing at the Center for Augmentative and Alternative Communication at the University of Pretoria, where tests confirmed he was aware and responsive. His consciousness was finally recognized by others.

Martin, now 39, taught himself to read and write. He got a job at a health center. He went to university. And in 2009, he married Joanna. The couple lives in England, and he works as a web designer.
Martin wrote his tome, "Ghost Boy, My Escape From a Life Locked Inside My Own Body"


Teen refusing chemotherapy to be forced by state [PHOTO\VIDEO] of Connecticut

By Tashi Singh

It is a case that pits a 17-year-old girl with cancer against the state of Connecticut: she is being forced to undergo chemotherapy against her will, and now the case is going to the state Supreme Court.

The girl, identified only as “Cassandra C." in court documents, was diagnosed with Hodgkin’s lymphoma in September. Hodgkin's lymphoma is a cancer of the lymphatic system. As it progresses, it compromises the body's ability to fight infection. At the time, doctors at Connecticut Children’s Medical Center (CCMC) recommended she receive chemotherapy.

After Cassandra C. declined medical treatment for cancer and her mom agreed with her decision, the Division of Children and Families (DCF) assumed custody of her and forced her to undergo what they called life-saving chemotherapy.
Credit FNC

According to the Hartford Courant, Cassandra believes chemotherapy can cause her as much or more damage as the cancer at this point.

“She knows the long-term effects of having chemo, what it does to your organs, what it does to your body. She may not be able to have children after this because it affects everything in your body. It not only kills cancer, it kills everything in your body,” Cassandra’s mother, Jackie Fortin, said in a video published on the Hartford Courant’s website.

Cassandra and her mother filed an appeal to the court as they fight for anti-chemotherapy rights. They argue the trial court violated their constitutional rights in permitting DCF to force the girl to receive medical treatment against her will.

The Connecticut Supreme Court will review the series of events, taking up an issue decided by several other states — whether some minors are mature enough to make decisions about their own bodies.


Report: Stress found to be a factor in developing diabetes, autoimmune diseases

By Maria Gomez

Report: Stress found to be a factor in developing diabetes, autoimmune diseases, According to a new report from Science Daily, Stress that is recurring can trigger insulin resistance, hypertension and abdominal fat deposition.

Stress is part of our instinctual response to fight or flee when confronted with threats. Stress responses provide adaptation to various physical conditions including burns, bruises, bleeding or psychosocial traumas.

However when the situation becomes recurrent, stress can trigger diseases such as diabetes, depression, insulin resistance, hypertension, abdominal fat deposition and other autoimmune diseases, says Siegfried Miracle Lopez, chief of endocrinology at the Advanced Immunology Center in Hospital Angeles Lomas.

A systemic imbalance is the cause of Type II diabetes.

When an imbalance of homeostasis and angiostasis arises, (altered immune and hormone systems) and the body cannot adapt to it, disease is the result.

Experiencing stress affects homeostasis, especially if it is constant and is the body doesn't have time to re-adapt and reach a neutral point of homeostasis. Go here to read more.